I wonder why we want to have children? Of course some people don’t and that’s their choice but most do.
In nature’s corner are instinct and a truism. Some natural instincts have gone the way of the dinosaurs, have been replaced or reinterpreted over long years since we swung from the trees, but the desire for children has remained mostly unchanged. And it’s a truism that apathetic creatures would become endangered rather quickly – Pandas and Koala bears are only just clinging on, indifferently.
In nurture’s corner are society and habit – it is expected or what everyone else does – often reminded of by a parent, in-law or more enthusiastic partner.
In another corner are the adventure of it, the joy of creating a life, a purpose to be, the happiness of a cuddle, an excuse to go to toy shops, chance to be a kid again, to have fun without Mummy complaining, to make silly noises and to see poo, wee and sick incidents not just as potentially disastrous but funny as well.
But I think in the last corner (of a square, for the purists) is the ability to reset time – to time zero. Both for Space Girl and for me.
For Space Girl it’s the chance to start with a blank slate. And a chance for Mummy and Daddy to use their experience to guide Space Girl’s adventures through and around the Universe’s opportunities, pitfalls, shiny bits and dark bits.
For me it’s the ability to start afresh and reset my own timeline. And it means that my history had a purpose – Space Girl. The decisions I’ve made, avoided, delayed or regretted have yielded her in this form, here and now. If I’d made other choices then she wouldn’t exist. Yes, there would be a different version of her instead or more than one of them, but I like this Space Girl.
It’s a new adventure though the Universe for both Space Girl and Daddy.
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